Working Areas/ Issues/ Problems

INFIDELITY

Infidelity is the most common problem that affects most marriages and relationships today. It brings a big setback to the relationship the moment it gets revealed. The cheated partner enters into a stage of shock, grief, self-rejection. This turns him / her to get occupied into endless cycle of mistrust. This cycle needs to be broken and the other partner needs to heal up the hurt. For this first of all, it is important to know the stand of the cheating partner. It needs to be known whether the act cheating be repeated or not.

But this in not easy. It calls for a following a scientific process. The therapy works on multiple dimensions. The cheated partner needs to be empowered to deal with the trauma. The cheating partner has to be provided a lot of support to come at a point of realization. Lot of guidance need to given to make a firm effort in bringing life back in the relationship. It is also important to identify the gaps in the relationship.

Our well researched technique and skills set and experience helps couples to kick-start a fresh with full commitment.

*Although we follow well researched therapy processes still incase we discover some critical components in the relationship, we are very flexible in formulating the therapy accordingly to get the best results.

LACK OF TRUST

Trust is when the partners believe each other on their capability. Sometimes either or both partners don't have trust on each other. This results in constant belittling and commenting thereby bringing a sense of discomfort in the relationship for both. In some cases there are evidences of belligerence, verbal abuse and even physical abuse sometimes. When this basic pillar of trust is missing in a relationship, a big vacuum which brings distress and hopelessness.

We work on the internal working models of both at individual level and at the couple level at the same time. We use therapy to identify the underlying insecurities that result in mistrust. The process includes study of the expectation set of the couple. State-of the art techniques help in slowly developing a sense of trust between the two.

*Although we follow well researched therapy processes still incase we discover some critical components in the relationship, we are very flexible in formulating the therapy accordingly to get the best results.

ISSUES WITH IN-LAWS

It is a globally acknowledged fact that Indian marriages are more centered around the in-laws. This situation has its roots in the concept of the Joint family systems that is much prevelant in India. India has developed so much in the last 3 decades. And there has been emergence of the nuclearisation of family. Despite living separately from larger family, the control of the sub-family ( despite it being nuclear ) is in the hands of the heads of the family. Majority of marriages in India undergo this suffocation in their initial years. The heads of the families don’t have any direct or indirect intentions to destroy the new relationship. They simply have lack of awareness on how to give the right space and express concern in the right way. Mostly the couples seeking therapy in India report an impact of issues related to In-laws directly or in-directly.

We can help you in creating a good enough relationship with your in laws. Our research based techniques give you the skills to live in a new family system. It is important to acquire these skills not only for the girl but also for the boy. The new couple need to be well placed in the families of both the sides. Required guidance is given on the ways to give and gain the due respect and love from the larger families. Both the husband and the wife learn to support the each other in their family of origin while acknowledging each other’s limits in doing so. In cases where the larger families are supportive towards counselling, a much better job can be done.

*Although we follow well researched therapy processes still incase we discover some critical components in the relationship, we are very flexible in formulating the therapy accordingly to get the best results.

PROBLEMS WITH FINANCES / MONEY

Money is indeed very important for survival. It is very much needed for fulfillment of needs. Similarly it is important for a couple too for running a home. When there is lack of trust in a couple around money, there are problems. Today mostly couples are double earners. So when either feels that other is not sharing the financial responsibility in everyday functioning of the home, there is an issue. Some people find their partners over-spending, others complain that their partners are obsessed with saving.

We help both the partners explore and understand each other’s concepts of money. Then both are gradually helped to move towards a mutually comfortable stand where both accommodate each other’s concepts. Then they are provided help in finding a common route towards use of money. The couple needs to learn to taking responsibility towards making a right balance.

*Although we follow well researched therapy processes still incase we discover some critical components in the relationship, we are very flexible in formulating the therapy accordingly to get the best results.

LACK OF SEXUAL INTIMACY

Physical intimacy has always been a coveted issue in indian marriages. Couples tend to hide these issues. Sex is a basic human need and when it is not met, anybody would feel frustrated. One of the core functions of marriage is also to satisfy physical needs. Most of people find it difficult to express or discuss issues with respect to sexual relationship with their partners. It is indeed a sensitive topic. It needs both the partners to be matured and supportive to healthy discussions in this area. But when this does not happen, relationships start decaying at deeper level. And a stage comes when there is withdrawal from either or both the partners. Eventually lack of communication tears a marriage apart. Some cases are because of medical conditions but some are also due to psychological factors. In both the conditions couple need to unite and resolve. This is again a tough job because sexual self esteem is also at play. Frustrations in sex life of a couple results to infidelity, psychological disturbances and emotional disconnect in the relationship. Some couples also report a mismatch in sexual preferances that leads to disturbances.

Our therapy is based on a simple philosophy that two need to be true commited partners to resolve every issue including sex, keeping the core objective of creating joy for self and the other. We use a step by step technique to move couples from a state of emotional disconnect to complete connection ( first at emotional level and then at physical level ). We have expertise in providing an empowering environment where couple can comfortable discuss the present stage of their sex life as team partners. They are promoted to jointly evolve a step by step action based strategy to rekindle the passion back in their sex life.

*Although we follow well researched therapy processes still incase we discover some critical components in the relationship, we are very flexible in formulating the therapy accordingly to get the best results.

INCOMPATABILITY

There have been many researches around this topic. Although there is initial sense of attraction towards the other when people enter in new relationships. But many people report a sense of incompatibility to the other. Some people face great dissatisfaction and resulting vacuum in the relationship because of such realizations of incompatibility. So much that some marriages come to an end even in the first year of marriage and some in the initial few years. Either or both partners end up belittling and damaging the self respect / self esteem of the each other. In some cases when this emotional / verbal abuse continues for a long period, people develop clinical psychological disturbances.

We give a unbiased atmosphere to the couple to check their expectations in terms of reality. Also assess the level of relationship satisfaction. Many people make new discoveries about their partners and relationships while undergoing this process of self awareness. We strictly make them do this assessment on their own, without any coloring their thought process. There are some basic facts of attraction / expectations from a life partner that from right from the teenage. This matrix undergoes lot of changes as time passes by. But finally when the stage of selection comes, an automatic click happens. Besides these deep routed expectations from a partner, other differences in attitudes, personality factors need to be accepted. Only then couple can accommodates to each others differentness. We have a very effective technique to facilitate this.

*Although we follow well researched therapy processes still incase we discover some critical components in the relationship, we are very flexible in formulating the therapy accordingly to get the best results.

ALCOHOL AND SUBSTANCE ABUSE

It is commonly said that alcoholism / substance abuse disturbs a marriage. Most people who consume alcohol are not aware whether they have turned into alcoholism or not. If one enters the trap of addiction, then surely this person brings this trap to the relationship too. Here an occasional drink is not to be called as alcoholism. Alcoholism affects the marriage by adding violence and life risk, financial situation, health, lack of affection and time to the relationship. Noone can just leave alcohol it calls for a lot of will power and therapy.

We don't treat alcoholism. But we help the alcoholic partner to come at a stage of realization of effect of the addiction on the relationship. The alcoholic needs to pursue a treatment plan seeking professional help from reliable sources. And then in parallel our couple therapy can be helpful in bring the warmth back in the relationship.

*Although we follow well researched therapy processes still incase we discover some critical components in the relationship, we are very flexible in formulating the therapy accordingly to get the best results.

LACK OF COMMUNICATION

No two people can afford to live together without sharing thoughts communicating. If they do, it is more like two strange passengers on a flight journey who are sitting next to each other with only one objective in common i.e. to reach at the same destination. Couples who don't share are also similar to this example. They live together because they just have to. They see this as the best option. They don't realize and years pass by. It is not a relationship, but just an arrangement or a proxy. Some people still realize the need for communication and sharing and they show their frustrations in completely no-constructive ways. Rather destructive ways in form of shouting, nagging, blaming. They blame each other for spoiling their life.

The basic premise of our therapy is to first let them be aware of the impact of this attitude towards each other. And when they realize we help them to slowly move to the next stage of experimenting new ways of connecting to each other. These ways are scientifically researched and are really effective. After seeing the positive change they get motivated to imbibe this way in their everyday life.

*Although we follow well researched therapy processes still incase we discover some critical components in the relationship, we are very flexible in formulating the therapy accordingly to get the best results.

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